Overcome Fear, Become More
Awesome
By Alexander Shih-Ming Ku
I
will not fear,
Fear
is the mind-killer.
I
will face my fear.
I
will let it pass through me.
Where
the fear has gone,
there
shall be nothing.
Only
I will remain.
From DUNE by Frank Herbert
FEAR:
Fear, though primal, is a
wasted emotion. It brings about inaction, and inaction leads to a slow death,
the slow death of lost opportunities and regret. As life is a series of challenges placed
before you, why would anyone want to waste time and effort worrying? Instead, confront the problem, break it down,
challenge the issues, and, with hard work, overcome it. As you dwell on a fear before an event, you
become locked into inaction, but you should never let these stressful situations
hold you back. You have a job to do. You
have a task to accomplish. Do you step forward and try…or do you lose your
chance?
In my own life I have been
challenged with two main fears, that of public speaking and a fear of heights.
Looking back, this seems very ironic in that I am currently a teacher that
can’t stay quiet anywhere, and one of my more daring hobbies is rock
climbing.
My fear of heights is limited
to extreme heights, such as looking down from windows of tall buildings or
overlooking the edge of the Grand Canyon. So in this case fear is more of an
inconvenience than a life-altering dilemma, such as public speaking. One of the
more painful memories of this fear limiting me would be early in middle school
when I was given a class assignment to recite a poem. I had read the assignment
a handful of times, and was given a day or so to prepare, but when it came time
to recite my poem to the class, I could not overcome the rumbling of my
stomach, the sweat on my brow, and the pounding of my heart. I ran out of class too embarrassed to
continue. This led me to fail that poem recital.
To rectify these issues, I
started simply. I began by taking leadership roles in my karate and scouting
troop. Then I took my fear of public speaking and broke it down to the basics
of why I was so fearful. When I realized
it was my lack of confidence and competence in the subject I was assigned to
work on, preparation become my shield against fear. I studied and researched
the materials, worked with friends and family to practice and rehearse these
types of speeches, and when the material became second nature, the fear melted
away. After honing my skills and taking
the baby steps needed to accomplish the task of public speaking, the fear
became just a wisp of its former self.
With my fear of heights, I
just needed to trust in my skills, in my tools, and in my partners, as well as
the deep understanding that what supported or stabilized me would not give
way. With practice and repetition, my
fear of heights became a joy of success in overcoming a difficult climb. The physically demanding task of rock climbing
and the fear associated with it…became a hobby.
Now when I see Fear, I step
back and look at the big picture. I decide what I will need to do to overcome
the problem, I ready myself, and then I attack.
Understanding Fear:
The specific mechanism behind
fear is a complex one that first involves an interaction with a stressor,
followed by the body responding with a release of adrenaline (the more common
term for epinephrine). This neurochemical courses through the blood stream
increasing heart rate, dilating the blood vessels to increase blood and oxygen flow
to skeletal muscles, and stimulating the release of glucose from energy stores.
Added to this effect, is pupil dilation. The purpose of this is to provoke one
of two possible reactions: fight or flight.
When in this state, you may experience what is often described as a
feeling of butterflies in your stomach, along with a massive surge of energy and
an increased vision as to your current reality.
You can use this aroused state to either fight, in an attempt to overcome the problem, or run and continue living in fear. The
more situations you run from, the more your body and mind become accustomed to
losing to fear.
Steps to Overcoming Fear:
1.
Rehearse,
practice, and prepare: Know the enemy,
plan for the enemy, and practice overcoming your enemy. This can be an academic
test, asking someone out, or even jumping out of an airplane.
2.
Healthy body: Getting
enough sleep. Lack of sleep severely unbalances your neurochemicals and limits
your ability to make the harder choices.
3.
Healthy mind:
Reduce stressors in your life. Being stressed over non-essentials makes you
more susceptible to fear.
4.
Small steps: In
life, when faced with an impossible task, break down the problem and tackle it one
piece at a time.
5.
Getting help and guidance:
We live in society and in groups, so we need to take advantage of them. A teammate,
a friend, your family…each can be useful in helping overcome challenges and
facing fears by sharing tactics and skills, or just providing support.
6.
Momentum: When
you get a good movement forward, don’t immediately start running, but definitely
don’t stop. When you get good at a skill, keep practicing, keep challenging
yourself to do more.
7.
Reward your
personal successes: Treat yourself and make sure that you acknowledge your
achievements. Put them down in writing and take a picture.
8.
Analyze failures:
Plot out the reasons for failure, and plan alternative methods of attack.
I will leave you now with
this final quote of inspiration as told to me by my karate sensei:
Remember
the past,
Plan
for the future,
Live
and cherish the Now,
As
it is a gift,
Called
the Present.
Alexander Shih-Ming Ku is a biology
teacher at Coachella Valley High School. When not showing the students how to develop
and nurture a long and healthy human existence, he is training and advising
students on how to physically and mentally dismantle opponents under the guise
of self-defense karate. He currently resides in Indio, California with his wife,
and fellow teacher, Anna.
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